My dear mother, Edythe Fowler, died shortly after noon today at age 86.
Len and I, as we have done each day for the last week, went to the hospital/rehab to visit with Mom. We stopped in the hallway for talk to a friend of Mom's who is also a resident at the long term section of the facility where Mom had been since Saturday. The contact person we met with two days ago regarding Hospice came up to us and told us the doctor whom we wanted to see was at the nurses station at the end of the hall.
We saw him there and walked in his direction, a distance of about 50 feet. That quickly he was gone. As we rounded the corner we heard and saw a commotion around Mom's room and heard someone say there was no heartbeat. An aide stopped us and asked that we stay right there. She got the doctor who took us into a private room. He told us her heart had stopped and she was in full cardiac arrest. He said if they brought her back she would be on life support. He asked what we wanted done.
I called my brother who was having lunch two miles away. My sister drives a school bus and could not answer the phone.
By this time they were putting Mom in the ambulance to transport her to the hospital, which is the building right next door. We followed the ambulance as my brother and wife pulled into the parking lot. They took her out of the ambulance still performing CPR. Once they got her in the ER, they came out and talked to Norm and I. We were in agreement. Stop all treatment. Let her go.
She told me yesterday she wanted to die. I told her I loved her and it was okay. She said she was tired and loved us too.
This is Mom last about a year and a half ago when we spent time with daughter Amy and her girls in Maryland. Mom with Charlotte (being silly) and Abby.
That day was very special. We had a "tea party" for us gals.
Amy came up from Maryland on Saturday and spent about two hours with her Grandmom. Terri spent about three hours last night with her along with my brother. We are so grateful we decided to return to NJ and arrived back a week ago.
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